Troll Model

Article for Bethlehem Matrimonial - Feb 2017

One of the distinct memories I’ve from my past is that our family had membership in at least three different international clubs, the branches of which existed in our hometown. The evenings and celebrations we had with the club activities were quite eventful. Being an international club, social drinking was considered a norm at these clubs.

As a little kid, I very clearly remember majority of the men there drinking with the exception of my dad and a few other elders. I recollect my mom telling my brother and me that dad very particularly followed the principle of not drinking in public and also in front of us, with the primary intention that he wanted us to grow up as responsible adults. Looking back, I really want to thank him for instilling that value and being a strong role model for me!

Fast forward a couple of decades and the actions from some people I see around makes me feel painful. I want you to picture this. Imagine you are a fifteen year old girl in your family get together where your dad is seated on a stage facing everyone. How would you feel if he keeps cracking a lot of X-rated jokes and sarcastic comments? Imagine your plight if you have to remain there in the room all embarrassed but forced to stay since your family members are seated around you?!

You may think the above scene I pictured is out of a fiction movie. In reality, this and many more are happening in the big bad digital world out there today. I’m talking about WhatsApp groups which are a part of our daily lives these days. Many of us when we forward a message or post something to the group see only the screen and not the picture I painted above. Would you really have spoken those words if you were in a room with the whole of your family looking at you? Would you really have posted a picture that you would’ve normally hidden from our innocent little ones?

The fact of the matter is, with the digital world spreading its arms even more in the current world, most of us have a digital personality along with our physical self. This digital personality of yours does not realize that you are doing things that you would’ve never done if you had to do it in front of the same set of people, in person. I you wouldn’t want your teenage daughter to hear you pass a very ludicrous comment when she is standing in front you and facing you, why would you do the same over a digital media like WhatsApp? What makes you a lesser dad when you are not face-to-face with your daughter? The same applies to any relationship.

I personally have a strong desire that I cherish. Just like how my dad and other elders in my family were role models to me, I would want my kids and other little ones in my family to look up to me and learn the good side of mine, if any. This will enable them to become better human beings for sure. I pray to God that let me never be a reason for someone to turn out to be a burden for the society.

And this is what is resonated in Mathew 18:9. “…And if your eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It's better to enter eternal life with only one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.” Ask yourself these questions. Are you living a life different in social media than what you are in real life? Will you talk to your parents or siblings or kids in the exact manner as what you do over WhatsApp or Facebook? If the answer is no, then it is time for an introspection. If the answer is yes, you’ve a bigger problem to tackle!

Sit back and think about all the good role models that you had in your life and how have they influenced you to form the personality that you have today. Now think again if you are being one, to the members of your family or are you being something else?

In other terms, are you being a ‘troll model’ whose sole objective is to create controversies and provoke response from people? Alternately are you being a role model for generations to come and for them to hold their head high and proclaim to the world about their ancestor who was an awesome human being?

Think! God bless!

Mesmerizing Mauritius!

Couple of decades back whenever there was a need to get anything done related to passports or flight tickets, I remember visiting one of the travel agency offices in my hometown. One of the most interesting attractions in the office was the wall that was beautifully adorned with posters of quite a few destinations across the world. Among everything on the wall, one poster always caught my attention. A lovely white sand beach with beautiful emerald green waters with pine trees lining the borders of the beach! It was a scene right out of a fairy tale.

Twenty years down the line, I now stand with the emerald green waters kissing my feet bringing along with it the lovely white sand blanketing my ankles and right behind me I can see the pine trees still lining the borders of the beach. Yes! I am in Mauritius!

It was a family vacation my wife, Ruby and I planned along with our son and daughter, Ryan and Mia, five and one year old each. We had our reservations about travelling with kids; yet we decided to go ahead and take that challenge. Time was to prove if the challenge was worth it!

We took a direct flight of Emirates from Dubai to Mauritius with a duration of six and a half hours. It was an A380 aircraft and was our first experience of flying the double decker jumbo. Fortunately the flight wasn’t that full and we enjoyed the journey though Mia didn’t sleep much during the flight. After most of the journey above the blue waters of Indian Ocean, seeing a green patch of land appearing in the middle of nowhere was a worthwhile sight from the aircraft. We touched down at Mauritius at 10:40 AM local time at Sir Seewoosagur Ramgoolam (SSR) International Airport which is the main airport in Mauritius.

One thing that surprised us right after we got into the airport terminal is the extensive usage of Hindi as a language in Mauritius. We learned later about the influence India has on this country. A lot of people here speak Hindi along with French and their native language which is Creole. Tamil also seems to be spoken widely here. The airport was a small one though seems to have made good use of the solar energy available in plenty. Officers at the immigration counter were quite friendly as expected since tourism is the key source of revenue for this island nation. We’d planned 5 days of vacation in Mauritius and being Indian nationals got the Visa on arrival for 30 days.

One good decision that we took was to take the baby stroller with us. The efforts of carrying the baby around in our arms would’ve otherwise spoiled the whole trip. We had booked our stay at Emeraude Beach Attitude Hotel a three star beach resort at a place named Belle Mare which was an hour’s journey from airport. Nicha, the guy responsible for the airport transfer we booked was waiting outside the terminal with a name-board with my name written on it. Being the month of November it was the beginning of summer in Mauritius and the temperature was a pleasant 27 degree Celsius with lots of sunshine!

The drive to our hotel was through very scenic routes and the geography shared a striking resemblance to Wayanad, one of the districts in my state of Kerala in India! We could see a lot of sugarcane plantations en route and Nicha said that’s the major cultivation in Mauritius. Ironically you don’t get to buy any of these sugarcane from the local markets since everything gets converted into sugar. Another sight that raised our curiosity was heaps of black boulders that we could see on the farms on our way. These were the remains of the volcanic eruption that happened millions of years back. Mauritius itself is an island of volcanic origin.  

Soon enough we were at our hotel and were welcomed at the reception with some sort of a drink mixed with local rum. The drink was so good that when we kept the glass down it was almost full still. We had opted for a half-board option which includes room, breakfast and dinner. After freshening up quickly we headed towards the dining area where we had lunch. We then decided to take a quick nap before going to the beach.

By evening we went out for a stroll on the beach which was right across the road from the hotel. The walk through the pine trees was a pretty unique feeling. We realized that we were quite late for the beach as we were the only ones there at that time. Also due to low tide, water had receded exposing algae and some other marine organisms. We decided to come back tomorrow for a better experience. Dinner followed and by ten o clock we hit the bed, something which we can’t even imagine doing back home! Another good thing about the resort is that they do not have Wi-Fi in the rooms and hence you are forced to live the good life you had a couple of decades back where your eyes were not glued to the screens.

Day two started with English breakfast which we learned is the norm there at the hotel. Though we’d initially thought of going for a sight-seeing tour that day, we changed our plans to spend time at the beach instead. There was a glass bottom boat ride offered by the hotel and we opted for that to begin the day with. We had to be a bit extra careful to board the boat with two little kids. The driver of the boat helped and were welcomed to the sight of an Indian flag on the boat!

Even before getting on to the glass bottom boat we’d noticed something strange about the beach there. Though the beautiful emerald green water and white sands were all there, one key ingredient seems to be missing. The waves! We could see the waves stopping a bit far away as if someone is not permitting them from reaching the beach. We got the answer to this puzzle during the boat ride. There is a natural coral reef up to 2 kilometres from the beach and this acts as a barrier to the waves from coming closer to the shore. This coral reef is what we see right through the glass bottom of the boat. There were quite a few fishes as well and kids were especially excited to see them so close. The crystal clear waters also helped to see them up close.

One thing I very clearly missed was getting a filter for my camera so that I could capture the complete beauty of this paradise! Nevertheless, images etched deep down in the mind is no competition for a digital image sitting somewhere in an online album.

After almost an hour of appreciating the beauty of corals, we returned to the shore. Walked through the white sandy beaches and collected a few pieces of corals that were lying around. There were quite a few coconut trees lining the beach and some dried grass as well. This combination gave a distinct mix of blue, green and hay colours. A perfect frame for some good beach shots and that’s exactly what we did! After the photo shoot we went for another stroll on the beach and also explored the rocky terrain on the beach where we were greeted by schools of tiny fishes.

Lunch followed and we took a nap after that. The hectic days of work seems to be somewhere in the distant past and that’s exactly what this break was meant to be! Ryan and I decided to check out the pool at the resort. It was fun to be in the water together. He in fact taught me a couple of swimming actions he learned in school! After this we went again to the beach for a short walk. Tide was low and we saw quite a few marine organisms like shells and sea urchins in their natural habitat. It was an interesting experience for everyone to see these beings directly, than only in books or TV channels. We had planned to take a North Tour of Mauritius tomorrow and had informed Nicha to reach in the morning. Had an early dinner and hit the bed so that we could get up tomorrow to begin our tour-de-Maurice!

I got up early in the morning, surprisingly without having the need for an alarm! Got out with my camera without disturbing Ruby and kids. Went for a walk through the pine trees and clicked a few shots of the Mauritian morning. Was back on time for breakfast and pretty soon we were on our way to Port Louis, the capital of Mauritius towards the North of this small island nation. Sugarcane fields and sceneries that reminded us again of Kerala, passed by. Advertisements talking about downloading Bollywood songs also caught our attention. A surprising find was the presence of the golden shower tree, Cassia fistula, which is the state flower of Kerala known as ‘Kani konna’!

Nicha dropped us near the harbour at Port Louis. We walked around the small town and explored the old market area there. We’d to cross a subway to reach the other side of the road and guess who was waiting there to say ‘Hi’ to us?! None other than Shahrukh Khan! Of course, as a poster on the wall of subway for his latest movie ‘Dear Zindagi’ :)

Our next stop was SSR Botanical Garden which was a naturally maintained green belt and that is the best part about it. You don’t get the feeling of a well pruned scientifically laid out botanical garden. Instead you get the feeling of walking through your backyard with the exception of some roads in between. We had our lunch there at a gazebo where quite a few birds gave us company. There was a stream flowing next to the gazebo which was home for quite a few fishes and ducks among other species of birds. Ryan and Mia had a great time feeding these birds and watch them at such close proximity. After a bit of asking around we finally ended up at, literally, the biggest attraction in the Botanical Garden, The Giant Water Lily pond! The sheer size of the leaves were overwhelming. As mentioned in the information board there, the diameter of a healthy leaf under optimum conditions can reach up to 3 meters! We also said hi to a family of giant turtles before heading to our next stop.

Picture this. A huge volcanic mountain jutting its head out of the sea watching the beautiful white sands on the beach lined with Royal Poinciana/flamboyant trees where a lovely red coloured church sits right there on the shore with the bell tower holding its head high announcing good news to the world. That’s Cap Malheureux for you. Happy with the opportunity to pray, we got ourselves a few pictures clicked with a couple of French tourists there. By that time it was getting dark and we started back to the hotel. The shops over here in Mauritius all close down by six in the evening since they are open seven days a week. The roads are all quite deserted after sun down to the extent that you feel safer to be indoors before sunset. End of day three. South of Mauritius, you get to see us tomorrow!

Another early morning in Mauritius. Mia had got up quite early today and hence it was a morning out for daddy and daughter together. We went for a walk on the beach. Saw a lot of interesting marine beings including a couple of star fishes. A school of tiny fishes also said good morning to Mia! Guess the morning breeze was so soothing that soon she slept off in my arms. Shortly after that we had our breakfast and started off to explore the South of Mauritius.

Nicha took us first to a diamond cutting shop where a whole lot of diamonds in different shapes, sizes and colours from across the world were on display and sale. From there we went to a ship model manufacturer and it totally was an out-of-the-world experience. Just walking through the models of the old war ships that once ploughed the oceans of the world was simply an awesome feeling! Unfortunately they didn’t allow photography there, else Ruby would’ve had a tough time to get me out of there.

Our next stop was an old volcanic crater. Though the crater now looks more or less like a valley with a lot of greenery, the mere thought that once it was a bed to molten lava send shivers down the spine! The Black River Gorges National Park followed which was a very beautiful view point where we spent a while, fully taking in the beauty of nature at its best.

Chamarel was waiting for us and hence we didn’t delay much to visit this location, famous for its seven coloured earth, the result of a volcanic activity. We stopped briefly to get some souvenirs from the gift shop there. We also got some coffee grown within that private coffee plantation in Chamarel. Before it was too late in the evening, we headed back to the hotel for our last night at Mauritius.

Day five and our last day at this paradise on Earth, we went around a bit to check out the small town of Belle Mare. Got a few goodies specific to Mauritius and before we went back to the hotel for packing our stuff we had a last few moments spent at the beautiful beach.

Nicha was not available to take us to the airport and hence arranged a friend of his to pick us up. We were dropped by one o’ clock in the afternoon for our flight. The airport was quite crowded, nevertheless we did a bit of last minute shopping at the duty free store as well. Soon we were on board an A380 EK702 flight back to Dubai.

Thanking God Almighty for a wonderful vacation at this beautiful piece of land on the face of Earth our aircraft cut through the clouds leaving the mesmerizing Mauritius! We bid adieu to the fantastic beaches taking back home tonnes of memories that will definitely last us for a lifetime! 

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Take a Break!

Article for Bethlehem Matrimonial - Jan 2017

A year after we got married, my wife and I went on a trip along with a newly married couple who was none other than her brother and wife. The trip was to the location known as Queen of Hill Stations, Ooty. Six years after this trip we still remember most of the detail of that trip and keep referring back to one or other incident during that trip. We’ve been doing that quite often and that’s when it hit us! One reason why we keep recollecting those good times is the fact that it was an awesome trip. But there was another reason for remembering Ooty days. It was none other than the truth that we didn’t have a ‘proper’ vacation after that wonderful trip!

We became parents, twice in 5 years, shifted to a different country and had to deal with a bunch of other responsibilities. All of these and more forced us to keep in the backburner, our plans to travel to a new destination. Every time, there was something or other stopping us from planning a trip to a location other than our home country. Going back home was never a ‘vacation’. Many a times, those home trips turned out to be more hectic that, by the time you are back, you needed another break! Life went on like that...

Looking back at the last six years, we can definitely highlight various achievements and happenings in our life worth mentioning. Having said that, with the passage of every year, my wife and I could sense something seriously missing. With God’s grace we were having a decent job and a good life with two loving kids. But there seems to be some gap somewhere. A sense of loss started looming over our life with every December reminding us that we’re bidding goodbye to another year.

The feeling kept on growing and finally a couple of months back, we took a decision that we can’t just take this anymore. Yes! We needed a break badly! Incidentally it just so happened that a colleague of mine posted a couple of pictures of his vacation at one of the most beautiful island nations in Indian Ocean. It was a destination that I’ve seen only as framed pictures in travel agencies or similar such places. We got excited at the prospect of spending a relaxed time in the emerald green waters of that beautiful island country! The travel bug has bitten us.

Preparations started at a crazy pace. Trip Advisor helped us find a good deal and hotel bookings were done. The flight tickets were booked online. Shopping for the trip followed and before even we knew we were at the airport terminal counter, handing over our bags to the Check-in staff. A few hours of journey and our aircraft touched down on this wonder piece of land on the face of Earth.

Next five days were perhaps some of the most beautiful ones in the last six years in our life’s calendar. There is no parallel to the happiness that we experienced. The concept of taking a break was truly becoming a reality that we were forced to relax and remain disconnected from everyday pressure of work and life. One of the best things at the resort where we stayed was that they didn’t have Wi-Fi in the rooms. That made us even more disconnected from the world and enjoy some quality time for ourselves.

You cannot really imagine the different perspectives that the trip kept in store for us. We learned about a new culture. Experienced the kind of things that we’ve only watched in channels such as National Geographic and Discovery. Learned a lesson or two in managing finances better. It was a sheer bliss to watch the little ones, though aged only five and one, thrilled to be in a different part of the world. I was very happy as a father that I could provide them with this experience though they may hardly remember any of this when they grow up. What mattered most was that they lived and loved every moment of the trip.

Five days just zipped past like five seconds. We just didn’t want to leave that wonderful land and get back to normal life. How much did we wish for time to be frozen! The beautiful memories will be etched in our minds forever. There is only one question that remains in our mind now, “Where are we going next?”!

May this New Year help you all experience this delight by taking a break and regain the vigour of life. God bless you with a wonderful year ahead! 

Bed of Roses

Article for Bethlehem Matrimonial - Dec 2016

There is a small flower store back in my hometown which carries the name board ‘Raja Flower Stores’. This perhaps is one of the first shops to open early in the morning in the town of Changanacherry to receive the trucks that bring fresh flowers from far away parts of the country. I’d been to this shop a few times early in the morning to get flowers for some of the events. Each time I reach there I see Raja, the owner of the shop sprinkling water on the flowers. When asked why, he said it keeps the flowers fresh and helps stimulate the fragrance!

Fast forward a few years and recently I came across one of the most clichéd statements we all must have heard in life, “Life is not a bed of roses”. This statement especially gets re-iterated all the time to youngsters who are about to get married or who recently got married. It primarily highlights the fact that life has its own hardships and difficulties and don’t have a presumption that everything will be as soft as a bed of rose petals.

Having said this, I still prefer to believe that life is indeed a bed of roses. Just that, similar to the rose flowers I saw at Raja Flower Stores, our bed of roses do have a bunch of stems as well from the rose plant. Needless to say these come with its own set of thorns. Every time we twist and turn on the bed, these thorns will promptly prick us making us experience the pain all the while being among one of the most fragrant flowers in the world.

If you have noticed, the thorns on the stem of a rose plant is quite strong and is capable of making you bleed. The challenges in our life can be equally strong and sometimes can even make us mentally bleed. The drops of blood get sprinkled on to the bed of roses just like how Raja sprinkled water on the flowers in his shop. Remember, these drops have a purpose to fulfil. They bring fresh perspectives to your life and stimulate the fragrance that lies deep down within you.

Every new challenge brings with it, a set of experience which you’ll never be able to otherwise have, unless you actually experienced it in person. Hence take up every challenge as just another stem with thorns added to your bed of roses. Let a few drops of blood be shed which will make your life fresher and helps you realize the different fragrances of life.

Never think that it’ll always be thorns when you are facing a difficult time. Keep reminding yourself that beneath the thorns lie the bed of roses and it is only a matter of time before the thorns give away to the rose petals. It is equally important to realize while you enjoy the fragrance of life, there is a possibility that one of the stem with thorns lying down there might come up and prick you again. This exactly is the cycle of life!

For every couple, it is quite important to keep up the spirit and tell each other during both good times and bad times about the other side of the fence. It is equally important to support each other during all the times rather than getting into an argument mode which is quite easy. Remind each other that you both share this bed of roses and one person alone cannot make this the best bed without the support from the other.

May you be able to create a bed of roses in your life all the while being aware of the stems with thorns lying beneath! May the good God bless you experience the happiness of being together during this Christmas season and keep the flame of love burning forever!

Wish you all a Merry Christmas in advance! 

Emotional Explosion!

Article for Bethlehem Matrimonial - Nov 2016

Being part of the largest airline brand from Middle East, I often get to work out of the Head Quarters (HQ) of my company. It is a state of the art facility with lots of offices operating out of this building. The second floor of HQ is accessible to general public where there are sales offices, customer affairs office etc. There is also an open space known as Atrium and at times I sit and work at one of the many desks available there.

The other day I was at the Atrium trying to complete a work to be delivered during the second half of the day. I could hear a kid probably aged around four years crying for something he wanted badly. He was with his mom and dad who were seen arguing if the kid really needs to be given that item. The argument became so hyper at a given point, so much so that, the next thing we saw was dad shouting at mom in public and dashing with his son to a nearby mini mart to buy what the kid asked for. While dad and son headed towards the department store, we could see the mother heading to a different direction with her head down avoiding all possible eyes staring at the family.

Can you imagine the impact created by this emotional explosion? Assume what happens to that father. He lost his cool and shouted at his dearest wife right in the middle of a set of people whom they’ve probably never seen before. He even forgot for a moment that what ought to be a private moment in their life is now exposed to the general public for their judgement and scrutiny. A momentary outburst of his emotion led to a situation that completely went out of hand. I can only imagine how the evening would’ve been back at their home that day!

Now think about the state at which the mother was in. She must have tried with the best of her intentions not to give what the child had asked for. She would’ve expected her dearest husband to support her in the decision since children need to understand the synergy of parents. The moment there is a clash between the father and mother, it is a natural disaster for the children. Instead she was ridiculed by the one on which she had utmost trust. That’s quite a dangerous situation to be in and one that will possibly have lasting impressions in her mind about her husband.

One of the most critical impacts is on none other than the child himself! He had seen his dad shouting at his mom and that too in a public place. This picture gets deeply etched in his mind and he’ll grow up thinking that it is ok to shout at your spouse irrespective of where you are and what situation you are in. He is bound to share his experience with his fellow kids and they’ll in turn have this unhealthy thought growing with them. A new generation is born with a threat to the society!

There is one more category of people who got impacted with the incident; the people who witnessed the scene. Each one of them, who were out there and watched what happened, will form opinions about relationship between a husband and a wife in their own way. Some will think like that father whereas the others will be all against this outrage displayed. Either ways the action by that couple has created an influence one way or other on everyone present there.

Many a times, when in rage, couples express their emotions without even realizing the situation they are in. The consequences almost never cross their minds during such scenarios. It is important that couples need to be aware of this fact and learn to master over their emotions. This is to ensure that you don’t end up being a negative influence on people around you, known or unknown.

Here is wishing you to be blessed with the providence of being a positive inspiration wherever you are! 

The Nail!

For a three year old kid, his dad’s workshop has always been a place of fantasy. His dad is well-known locally for the wooden sculptures he has created and many of them decorate the living rooms of the rich in that small town. The carpentry shop having quite a few sharp tools, his mom was always concerned about his safety. She used to keep a watch on him lest he’ll end up doing something mischievous.

That was just another day and in between the playing sessions at the workshop, the mom saw her son opening a can of long nails that was to be used for a specific wood work. She screamed at the kid not to touch those sharp nails, but by the time she reached him he already managed to get a tiny cut and a small stream of blood started flowing out!

She was all scared to see the blood oozing out and immediately tried some first aid to stop the blood flow. The next natural thing followed when she asked the kid, “Haven’t I told you son not to play with these sharp nails? See how you have hurt yourself now!”

The mom looked at him again and there it was! He had that unique look on his face which has been disturbing her for a while now. Every time he has that look it was as if he is seeing the future and she was right!

He was seeing thirty years ahead when a similar long nail will pierce through his palm and will be on a cross with his mom standing right below not able to help him in anyway! 

Keep the Change!

Article for Bethlehem Matrimonial - Sep 2016

It will be quite an interesting exercise to ask a question on changes in life to a married couple, especially a few months into their marriage. I’m pretty sure many of them will have stories to share about how life has changed for them or how their partner has tried to influence to bring in a bunch of changes in their life. Never mind, this is one of the most natural things to have happened to a married couple.

Having said that, after a few years into our marriage, during one of those looking-back-to-your-past days, I had a major realization! There were a few things which both my wife and I tried to get changed in each other after we got married. Needless to say we both were ‘successful’ to a great extent. That did leave us with a handful of changes that neither of us could influence the other to change and they remained as is.

The realization I mentioned earlier came to me a few days back. To my own surprise I figured out that I now love some of those things which I wanted to be changed in my sweetheart! I was not sure if I was prepared to face such a realization. Nevertheless it indeed was a moment of truth.

Probably this isn’t true for every couple. Then again no two couples are the same. Just that it works for some and does not for others. Nevertheless the thought is worth sharing. I now wonder how many such other things I may have made her change which would’ve been worth retaining in its original form that one day in future I would’ve started loving them!  

If you are a new couple or one about to be, it could be worth a try to keep this thought in mind. Realize that it isn’t a necessity to insist your partner to change every routine of theirs if you don’t approve it. Be informed that you might as well be changing something which you would’ve liked, given some time.

Be aware that the aspect of not resorting to changes is no excuse for changing the habits that negatively influence people such as addictions, illegal activities etc. Those that need to go must go. There are no two ways about it. The reference here is about those habits or nature you see in your partner which you wish aligned to your interests and hence you insist that they change them.

Needless to say, this act of not insisting a change requires a lot of courage from both the parties involved. While one is from the perspective of resisting the change, the other more importantly is to keep an open mind and embrace the nature of their partner as-is. This isn’t a simple task so to speak, a task that can probably take ages to reach an acceptance from the more affected party.

It is a wonderful nature of the human psyche that a seemingly least interested entity, be it a person, a thing or an activity, can generate a lot of interest over a period of time. Without you knowing it, you’ll be forced to start developing a liking to the same entity you disliked in the past. This probably is one of the biggest ironies of life! Hence you may just end up putting in a lot of efforts to get a habit changed in your partner resulting in losing a wonderful experience you may have in future.

Change is a constant as all of us are aware. But ask yourself this question. Is the change that you are insisting on your better half really worth it? Is this in fact something which you may possibly love in future and see a benefit in doing that? If so there is only one thing you have got to do. Keep the need to change to yourself. Give it sometime. For all that matter, you might uncover a diamond which looks like a piece of carbon today.

May the good God help you have a vision for future and bless you with such decisions that will have life-saving moments!