Article for Bethlehem Matrimonial - Apr 2018
The scene reminded you of day
one of battle of Kurukshetra. The royal family was at war. The only difference compared
to Kurukshetra is that, the opponents are the king and the queen themselves.
Both are ready with their army fully equipped with weapons. Infantry, cavalry
and artillery are all summoned. Even the mightiest of the weapons including
‘Brahmastra’ will be available to be deployed if required. Both the king and
the queen are fuming with rage. A mighty war is about to begin!
All of a sudden comes a sage
cutting right through the battalions that are all set to fire their weapons at
each other. He is carrying a huge canvas on which he projects one after the
other, every single moment of happiness the king and queen spent together.
Right from the days before they became one, through their courtship, into their
lovely marriage and their beautiful children, all unravels in front of their
eyes.
The fuming faces slowly
reains the lost emotion of love. With every passing image, the anger that was
deep down got pushed aside by the soft and gentle feelings. By the time the
projection ended the king and the queen were looking at each other in their
eyes. They reached out and hugged each other not realizing that their army of
millions have been replaced with a beautiful bed of red roses!
Now, bring the above scene to
your homes. Replace the king and the queen with you and your sweetheart. An
argument or two led the both of you to face each other to be battle ready. Your
arsenal is prepared automatically with all the reasoning in the world to sling
mud at each other. You even kept the secret Brahmastra ready, the one complaint
that you’ve been hiding deep down in your mind which you never bothered to open
up and speak with your partner.
So who is the sage that comes
in between? That’s none other than your emotional intelligence that you need to
apply in such a situation. Take a step back and probably with some efforts try
to bring into your mind all those beautiful moments that you spent with your
loved one till date. One after the other let your mind be in a slideshow mode
that projects all the awesome memories you cherish.
Voila! You’ll be surprised to
know that you no longer are in a mood to fight. What is even better is that you
have found a way to work around the argument that led to the bitter mood
earlier. This is nothing but the ‘flashback funda’!
We live in a world filled
with a lot negative emotions. It is quite natural that we could get influenced
by many of them in our daily lives. Knowingly or otherwise these come up
between you and your sweetheart on a daily basis. Many a times these lead to arguments
and eventually an exchange of heated words or a complete silence for a duration
that’s not known.
When we are mentally ‘at a
state of war’ it is quite difficult to think of alternate options to bring back
the peace in our lives. That’s exactly why we need to put our minds through an
exercise that is guaranteed to work wonders. Your momentary anger could be
nothing compared to the magnitude of happiness you experienced till date in
your life. It is important not to let that anger spoil the value of happiness
you invested in your relationship.
Who doesn’t like to look at
an album filled with wonderful images from the past? These are moments that we
preserved for future. These are the slices of life that we want to go back and
live again. That’s exactly what flashback funda proposes to you. When you are
at a point where you think life is not fair, bring back your memories and
remind yourself, this is just a passing phase. Life had been fair to you indeed
and that exactly is the reason you enjoy what you have now.
May you have the wisdom to
press the pause button on an imminent ‘war’ and the prudence to bring back to
your minds the moments of celebration from the past. This is guaranteed to
sustain the peace in our families and allow us to enjoy our life the way it
should be.
God bless!
